I want to meet you but I don't know what I like. What do you want to do to me?
It's really important for me to have a clear idea of your desires before we meet. I offer a wide range of services, and 'general domination' can have a lot of meanings. Unclear communication leads to frustration and disappointment on both sides.
Now I know it can be overwhelming at first, there are so many exciting kinky things and you just want to make me happy. Check out my blog post on variety
with some helpful questions, and my sessions
page for some ideas and see if any of these appeal as a starting point.
Where do you hold BDSM sessions?4>
I offer dungeon sessions at my venue in North London, The Peacock Parlour, which is less than 10 minutes walk from Caledonian Road station. Domestic sessions are available from my house in Finsbury Park 5 minutes walk from the station.
Dungeon equipment includes a 2.5m high scaffold frame, bed, cage, padded floor, bondage table, stocks, kneeling bench, gynae chair. Plus all of the floggers, canes, e-stim attachments, bondage points, rope, candles and all the other toys we could ever need.
How much does a BDSM session in London cost?
|Talking only - for information, advising, familiarising
||£80 1 hr
|Relaxed dinner date*
||£120 + expenses
||£900 - £2000
Get in touch for holiday rates
*These are occasionally offered free of charge to regulars to deepen our relationship
**Overnight sessions varies depending on what we'll be doing, and most importantly, how much sleep I expect to get.
Deposits are non refundable. Can be transferred to another booking within 1 month of cancellation.
Bookings cancelled within 24 hours incurs 100% of agreed fee.
Bookings cancelled within 48 hours incurs 50% of agreed fee.
How do I pay?
£50 of the session fee must be paid as a deposit in advance to confirm first booking, PayPal or bank transfer preferred. Cash drop-off incurs additional 'meet and greet' fee of £50.
Session fee either cash in an envelope when you arrive or bank transfer (before we meet).
Can I have a discount?
No, never for a first session. If we have an ongoing relationship I might consider it in very particular circumstances.
How do you like to be contacted?
I prefer introductions to be over email, this way I can take my time to read between the lines of what you've written to get to what you actually want. Ideally this happens after you've thoroughly read my site so know what I do and do not offer, and after reading my contact
page so you know what information I need.
How long should we meet for?
For a first meeting usually 1 or 2 hours is best depending on what we're doing. I'm happy to advise when I know what you want to try. Note that the booking is for the time agreed, not longer. So if for example, you know you would like to chat for a long time make sure to factor this into your requested booking time.
After our first meeting anything from 1 hour to overnight is normal, or even mini-breaks abroad or in London if we're feeling adventurous.
When should I arrive?
Arrive at the time we've agreed to meet at, not earlier. There's no waiting room. More details on timeliness can be found in this blog post: On Timing
Should I buy you a gift?
I do love gifts and I will always remember you when I wear/use/drink/eat it. Here are some ideas...Gifts
Can you wear heels (corset/latex/PVC...)?
Heels no, corset no, latex no. I'm not comfortable in them and will spend more time faffing with my outfit than playing with you. My absolute favourite outfit is jeans/shorts, a vest or t-shirt and a pair of leather boots. Unless you request otherwise this is most likely what I'll wear when we meet.
I also like leather, fur, comfortable sexy black clothes, silk kimono's. If you have a preference you can ask me to wear something specific, (or buy me a clothing gift), and if I like it I will.
Do you do strap-on or anal play?
As a general rule no, I don't. I will occassionally offer this to experienced bottoms who are very familiar with exactly how to douch thoroughly. I will require references from other dommes you've played with before agreeing to this. Basically I do not want to have to deal with your shit.
Can I use nitrous oxide/poppers other intoxicants?
No, I do not enjoy the use of intoxicants in sessions.
Can I be your personal slave? Can you use me for filming/photo shoots/ forced bi sessions?
Possibly, if you approach me with a well thought through email explaining clearly and concisely what you can offer me. What are your skills, previous experiences, references. Note these are service positions and are intended to serve me, not as a way for you to get a free session.
Why do you call yourself 'Sir'?
I call myself 'Sir Claire' because it was the most appealing honorific to me. As you'll see from my images I'm not super femme and 'Goddess', 'Miss', 'Madame', 'Lady', 'Princess'... just don't sit right; they sound like some glamorous woman I have no aspirations to be. Occasionally 'Mistress' is okay. I know some people have real issues with 'Sir' because of previous life experiences so in these situations 'Mistress' is acceptable, but 'Sir' or 'Sir Claire' will always make me very happy.
Another benefit from this is that it shows someone is really engaged with me. If a sub is just blurting out 'Yes Mistress, oh Mistress' I could be any Domme they're served. You need to be present with me to remember 'Sir'.
Can we have sex? Can I worship your pussy?
Generally no to the sex. I do occassionally offer more vanilla sexual activities, these are charged at £500 per hour.
There are occasional circumstances where I allow pussy worship in a Domination session. If you have been very well behaved, requested politely, I feel it fits with our dynamic, and if I'm in the mood, just maybe. Probably not, but maybe